Sisters of Frida CIC is an experimental collective of disabled women. We want a new way of sharing experiences, mutual support and relationships with different networks.
Sisters of Frida started at a meeting when we floated the idea of having a disabled women’s group. It took some time to come together – the co founders were Eleanor Lisney, Michelle Daley, Eleanor Firman, Maria Zedda, Svetlana Kotova, Frieda Van De Poll and Martine Miel. We became a CIC in 2014.
We are seeking to build a/or different networks of disabled women. The barriers and multiple discrimination have not changed, we struggle to have our voices heard as disabled women in our own rights.
We would like a sisterhood, a circle of disabled women to discuss, share experiences and explore intersectional possibilities.
In this ezine, we have some artwork from Culture Access. They worked together as a group and individually. These have been in an exhibition and will be housed, hopefully, more permanently in an art gallery when it opens in the summer.
Culture Access
Culture Access CIC, a collective of Deaf and Disabled people, had an exhibition of their joint artwork at Woolwich Centre Library. It is a pan-disability group and Deaf, Blind and Visually impaired, neurodiverse people all worked together. Many of the group had not produced any artwork before and here are some of their graphic and tactile examples. They have an offer of a longer exhibition in a couple of months in south-east London, to be announced later.
Here are the artists’ comments on their artwork:
Anahita Harding: “this collage weaves together green fabric knots with a variety of colours and textures— inviting hands and eyes to explore.”
Eleanor Thoe: “Durian is a favourite fruit from East and South East Asia. It is a strong and pungent fruit and has a spiky exterior. But the delicious creaminess is unbeatable. It brings back memories and reminders of my heritage as an immigrant here.”
Kamila Miri: “Music has charms to soothe the savage beast and always brings people in peace and harmony.”
Sajida Shah: “I don’t need vision to see my artwork, I can feel it and it’s just as good.”
Sue Elsegood and Kate Brown: “When diverse threads weave together they become stronger & create something uniquely beautiful”
Commission on the Status of Women Parliamentary Briefing
Eleanor and Kym went to the briefing at Portcullis House for Sisters of Frida.
2025 is the 30th anniversary of the last UN World Conference on Women held in Beijing and the ‘Beijing Declaration and Platform for Action’ (BPfA) which stated commitments of participating countries. The BPfA remains a foundational document for advancing towards equality of women and men. 30 years on, the BPfA has not been fully implemented anywhere in the world.
Every year at the UN Commission on the Status of Women (CSW), the annual UN event to monitor progress on the BPfA, participants fight to hold the line against a roll-back on the rights for women and girls globally.
This March, a sizeable UK NGO delegation participated in the 69th Session of the CSW and were active in all areas of the Commission. The UK Government endorsed and helped negotiate the CSW69 Political Declaration, which improved on the Political Declaration made 5 years ago. Yet it is not the robust document that women and girls need.
In the photo are Kym Oliver, Eleanor Lisney and Zarin Hainsworth (NAWO)
Green Paper ‘Pathways to Work’
Welfare Not Warfare
We are much concerned, as are other DDPOs and Disabled people, with the government’s Pathways to Work Green Paper. Some of us took part in the marches on 26th March.
Mass Lobby on 21st May
There is much happening to fight against the cuts.
The next big event is on 21st May, when there is a mass lobby in parliament. It’s a powerful opportunity to speak with one voice.
If you can make it, please come and meet with your MP, and tell them to vote against these harmful cuts.
There will be information provided on the day to support you, as well as volunteers from many Disabled-led organisations helping attendees.
You can also get funding to travel to Westminster and stay in a hotel if needed (see image below).
Sisters of Frida is working with the Women’s Budget Group to research the impact of cuts on Disabled women.
Many thanks to the generosity of those who responded to the questionnaire – we will keep you posted on the outcome of this research.
The questionnaire was described like this:
“The Women’s Budget Group (a feminist economics think tank) and Sisters of Frida (a Disabled women and non-binary people’s collective) are conducting analysis of how the changes to disability benefits and work support announced by the Government in March 2025 will affect Disabled women specifically. We will use the findings from this research to put pressure on MPs, politicians and policymakers, to reconsider these reforms and protect Disabled women, and Disabled people in general, from poverty and socio-economic hardship.
We are using national statistics to describe the impact these reforms will have on Disabled women. We are also doing interviews with women with lived experience of disability to better understand how these reforms will affect their lives, and the effects the announcement of cuts is already having on women’s health and wellbeing.
If you agree to take part, we will ask you to share your experiences of disability and state support by answering the questions below. Your participation is voluntary, and you do not need to answer any questions you don’t want to, and you can stop completing the survey at any point if you wish to.
Your responses will be used to illustrate how disability reforms are expected to impact Disabled women. We may use excerpts of your answers in our briefing. It will be anonymised so that the information cannot be linked to you.”
Please help with this questionnaire – to contribute with data crunching against the Green Paper: Pathways to Work: Reforming Benefits and Support to Get Britain Working. This is one response to show the impact on Disabled Women and non binary folks with the cuts. We collaborated with the Women’s Budget Group on this. We know many of us will be affected – apart from online or otherwise protests, this is another way of showing what this will cost us as a community. There’s a questionnaire – please fill it and return to sara.reis@wbg.org.uk by Wednesday 7 th May. Apologies for the short time but its to fit it into the consultation timescale.
As 2024 comes to a close, many of us look forward to the chance to switch off and recharge. However, we recognise that the Steering Group has been working hard for us with training sessions and helping with fundraising efforts.
Kym Oliver represents us at Women’s Budget Group report launch
Kym Oliver is part of the Sisters of Frida Steering Group and represented us at the recent Women’s Budget Group report launch. Here is the video, with embedded captions:
“Whatever is happening to the folks who live at the most marginalised intersection, that’s a representation of where your nation is actually at.”
Kym is also a Co-Founder of Our Living Archives and a PhD Researcher at City University. Thank you to Our Living Archives for this footage.
In the meantime, Tumu Johnson, one of our directors, was at the UNECE Beijing +30 Civil Society Forum in Geneva 19-20 October 2024, organised by the NGO Committee on the Status of Women as a service to the women and girls in the UNECE region.
She was interviewed for ‘Best Practices and Vision for the Future’, as part of Sisters of Frida, alongside representatives from other specialist organisations and international organisations working on diverse issues, to share what has worked across the region.
You Are My Net – abridged, Anon
During this festive season, we hope you can take out some time, whether during a coffee break or while on annual leave, to look back on your accomplishments from 2024.
Here is an article we hope resonates with you, in the season when so many of us are alone and lonely, to enjoy the festivities associated with it:
Every time I have a hard day, a situation, or an emergency, I have friends I can go to. Recently, it struck me that this wasn’t always the case. There were times way back when I didn’t have someone I could trust and talk to, who would help or want to. This is a position a lot of disabled people experience at some point in their lives. I worry about people I meet who don’t talk about friends, because though they may be happiest in their own company, they may not have someone who will notice when something’s wrong, or to turn to for advice.
There are times when this has made a huge difference in how a situation plays out, and this safety net is incredibly valuable to me.
And yet… We are so far apart. We hope that each other are OK rather than directly observing this ourselves. The narrower the bands of communication, the fewer signs we can use to understand how each other are doing. It takes time to learn the signs for each person, and it can be very unique to the individual. Impairments can dictate which bands are available to us, and the need for privacy can reduce these options, for example if you wish to communicate without being overheard, you may choose to use a messaging platform. Neurodivergence can also change which bands work best – I personally learn what changes in people’s voices mean far faster and more reliably than their facial expressions.
There’s a lot that I learned late that would have been useful earlier. Here’s some ideas for you to use if you wish:
Open the different communication bands as wide as possible. In person can offer facial expression, tone of voice, posture and gestures, clothing and jewelry (anyone else have an “I’m sad” t-shirt?), word choice, laughter and humming and silences and signs of joy or exhaustion like dark circles or tapping feet. Messaging can be great for saving some spoons, but traveling to meet in person when practical creates a stronger net, and means you know where you’re going if they need you, or you need them.
Learn your friends care needs, or those you can, and spend time letting others know yours. Remove as many barriers to spending time alone together, making sure that there’s space for topics and communication to be private whenever you both want this. This could be as simple as giving your home phone number to a friend so that they can call a PA in the next room for you when needed, or as critical as learning how to use an emergency med like an Epipen.
Practice getting comfortable asking others to leave the room and close the door for phone and video calls. Making this a standard practice will mean that nobody finds it suspicious that you’re asking for privacy in the event that you’re asking for support or making an emergency call about yourself or someone else.
Get a headset or earbuds, and get some for your friends. This will reduce the chance of your friend’s side of the conversation being overheard, meaning that even if you are in the same room as someone else, you can still have a semi-private conversation. This will make your friends feel more comfortable to speak with you openly, and in the event of an emergency, you can safely hear the other person and answer questions with a new code.
Use a separate digital device to others around you, and have separate digital accounts from others. Do not give your passwords to anyone. This means that emails and messages can be private, meaning your friends can share things with you confidentially and you with them and beyond, including sources of help, support, and advice. Sharing devices and passwords can mean that others can check your search history, messages, emails, and files.
Set up code words with trusted friends that let them know something is wrong, and what to do. “Do you want to come over for pasta bake tonight?” as an agreed code for “I need you to come over quickly”. Creating your own codes will let trusted friends know what’s going on without the code becoming known to someone who you may need assistance to get away from, or let them reach out to you for help when they don‘t have privacy. Be creative.
Make sure your friends know what level of privacy you have on each platform and each time. This will mean that they will know when it’s OK to talk about sensitive topics with you – and not get you into avoidable awkward situations.
Get into a rhythm. Got a friend who usually calls you twice a month hasn’t called for 2 months, and keeps saying sorry but not saying why? That could be a sign that something’s not OK.
Build your net. Find people you enjoy being around and trust and can rely on. This article was written with the help of 4 other people, all of whom I would trust in an emergency.
Talk about safety with everyone you want to be safe. Add your own ideas to this list. Ask others for their tips. Put them out there for others to find.
We have to build a net. You are my net.
Seasonal Greetings from the Sisters of Frida team…
We would like to welcome the new Sisters of Frida Steering Group. We had a great first meeting last month.
The new members of Sisters of Frida Steering Group are:
Emily Reynolds
Isabel Marler
Lena Mohamed
Kym Oliver
Priscilla Eyles
Megan Belcher
And Yen Godden
We are very happy that they have joined us. We will have some onboarding sessions with them to introduce them to the collective to start with and then they will steer the future of Sisters of Frida!
The photo is of the new Steering Group with the co-directors, Rachel O’Brien, Eleanor Lisney and Tumu Johnson. We look forward to running future events and projects with you!
Song by Dennis Queen
As is appropriate to the election season, we would like to celebrate with Dennis:
The video has captions via the captions button.
Art for a Free Palestine
The red poppy is the national flower of Palestine. It is made up of the three colours of the flag red white and green. The poppy’s red petals are often seen as a symbol for the bloodshed and sacrifices made in their struggle for freedom. In the spring Palestinian fields are blanketed with these flowers.
This is an art for action exchange! Follow the lead of BDSMovement.net/get-involved a Palestinian-led Boycott, Divestment & Sanctions movement for a free Palestine & an end to this genocide. I have also included a list of ways you can take direct & indirect action with all the organisations & people tagged.
This art for me, expresses the strength of the Palestinian people and I hope is a way to encourage actions for Palestine. For those who have taken action, may download and use this artwork for free. Spread the call to action by sharing on social media or printing and sharing.
Examples of ways you can use this art:
Print as signs or flyers with call to action for rallys or events,
Post on social media with actions list,
Print as wall art/ posters for your window (will print up to A2), paste ups for your local area, stickers, digital wallpaper, social profile photos or banners, free to use!
*please don’t modify the art.
If you would like to print & sell for Palestinian fundraisers or events just contact Yen
– Yen Godden, Artist & Community Organiser (also Sisters of Frida Steering Group) @YenOutLoud
View more artwork, links and ways to take action via Yen’s Instagram post, or download all of the art here.
Video clip from the last social
We had our last of 4 socials funded by the Greater London Authority, where we shared food and talked about our experiences. We spoke about why these events are so important to us:
Lastly but not least we have a lovely article on relationships:
I grew up with the idea that I would meet a non-disabled man who would sweep me off my wheels in my late teens, have 2 children in my 20s, have a part time office job and some side projects that would make some small but important contribution to science. My husband would have a 9 to 5 doing something interesting that I enjoyed talking with him about. And that was it. No friends, no dilemmas, no travel, no PAs. An almost ordinary life.
Now in my mid-30s, I can say that’s not how it went, and I’m very glad of that. Real life relationships are messy, and unexpected, and unpredictable. My white picket fence life would have been rather dull, and a lot more lonely, and even dangerous.
My view of what I wanted and was going to get didn’t change until my early 20s. I met a man with a very similar set of impairments and needs to me. We also had the same sense of humour, taste in music, food preferences, and similar habits, and life experiences. We talked, all the time, and he understood everything I was saying (a new experience for me), and we took care of each other in all the ways care services don’t. We fell asleep watching movies together, sang duets, ate curry, and just enjoyed every moment we were together. He was a joker, making me laugh so hard I spat tea out of my nose. I was relaxed and free. He was an artist, and an activist, and quickly became the centre of my future plans. I imagined a cute little bungalow, with a couple of carers and a couple of cats. I would work in an office and he’d paint and we’d take care of each other and laugh and sing, forever. And then, due to clinical negligence, he died.
Much of what I’ve done since then is about building a world where this could have been. Arguing with medical professionals to improve standards of care based on knowledge discovered long before I was born, but somehow not yet implemented. Basic access to essentials like housing and care. I even ended up in his job role at one point. Making sure I do things that he would have been proud of, would have made him laugh, and cheer, and sing. Making sure I sing.
And so I moved out of my parents’ house on my own. I’ve done things I never thought I could, made friends (which wasn’t something that came naturally to me). He left me alone with the tools to be not alone, and to deal with the world alone with the tools to deal with it, and to find my own way alone with the tools to find my own way.
Why am I writing in a feminist newsletter about a man? Because he’s a part of my story that led me to a world not dependent on men, or anyone else, to choose my path, but myself. He had confidence in me and my skills and passions that others around me didn’t at that time, and encouraged that confidence in me. That shouldn’t be rare, and it is precious. I wish that for everyone, and have met so many women who need it. I try to pass it on.
Since then, I have met others who share in that confidence, and who have kept me afloat. I have also met people who believe the opposite, that I’m incapable and ugly and worthless and unlovable and unhappy. Sadly, many of these people have been women, pushing others down to make themselves feel lifted up.
What I’d like my future to be like now looks very different. Whether I’m single, have a partner, or am married, I want to be doing something I enjoy. Monotony, predictability, and following the fairytale are not for me. Desperately trying to keep up whilst pushing my joy down and having it crushed by others can get in the bin. I want those around me to give me confidence and to be able to do that for others. I want to be so proud of me, you, and our community that I start singing. I want to spit tea out of my nose again. And I want to build where this can be.
We’re meeting this Sunday, 23rd June, between 1-3pm, at a venue close to Kings Cross. We’re lucky enough to have Tumu Johnson speaking about Pride and disability, so be sure to join us this LGBT+ Pride month.
Let us know via email that you’re coming so we can send you the exact address: sisofrida@gmail.com
Please also tell us your access and dietary requirements. See you there!
This event is funded by Greater London Authority (GLA).
It is Easter weekend, we will celebrate together with this social. Our friends celebrating Ramadan will be able to take the food with them. We will have a discussion on what intersectionality means, led by Tumu Johnson. The venue is accessible, with level access and automatic doors.
For those who have not registered yet, please send an email to eventadmin@sisofrida.org. It will be at Greenwich Peninsula, on the Jubilee Line, North Greenwich station. We will give full address with registration. We hope to see you there.
Sisters of Frida is carrying out a survey to understand our impacts of our work. This survey will help guide the way we operate. It will also give us an insight into the needs of disabled women & non-binary people. With this, we hope to get a better idea of our demographics, your interests and needs, to help improve the way we work.
Can You Help Shape the Future of Sisters of Frida?
We need a new steering group to decide where we go next
Sisters of Frida is unique. We are the only collective of disabled women and non-binary people in the country. We create a space for disabled women and non-binary people that DDPOs don’t provide – in fact, nowhere else provides it.
Sisters of Frida formed from a need for disabled women to have a voice within the wider women’s and disabled people’s movements. We are led by ideals and strong principles.
We build community, a space where we want to lift ourselves and each other up, to centre us in thought and action, to celebrate ourselves with pride, to amplify our voices, to share our skills, to challenge power and privilege, and to pursue avenues of change for disabled women and non-binary people. We are a diverse movement committed to an intersectional approach to our work and collective liberation. We’ve impacted national and international conversations about disabled women within both the feminist and disability rights movements. We are committed to radical politics and cross-movement solidarity work.
Like many communities and organisations, the pandemic (and life, more generally) has stretched the capacity of the current directors to its limit. But more importantly, movements can’t flourish without change and evolution. Sisters of Frida needs new energies, directions, ideas, drive, and most importantly, people.
Our new steering group will decide where we go next. We want you to be a part of it.
Previous priority areas have included combating violence against disabled women and girls, and disability and sexuality. Most recently, we’ve conducted research on the impact of the pandemic on disabled women and gender non-conforming people. In all these areas, we’ve shaped conversations nationally and internationally to centre the rights and experiences of disabled women and non-binary people. We’ve often been one of the very few groups speaking from and for these perspectives.
Our future priorities will be up to you.
We’re proud of what we’ve achieved, but we know there are voices that have been missing from the conversations we’ve been part of that we haven’t been able to represent. Similarly, we as a community have mutually built and shared skills and knowledge necessary to sustain our efforts but we’ve also learnt that there are other strengths needed to take Sisters of Frida even further.
We are looking for up to 8 people to form Sisters of Frida’s new steering group, to decide our next directions and develop our new organisational strategy. We’re looking to ensure Sisters of Frida can continue and is sustainable.
To do that, we need people with a diverse array of experience, formal or informal, including around fundraising, finance, strategic planning and organisational development.
If you think you can help shape the future of Sisters of Frida we’d love to hear from you.
To find out more about applying to be part of our new steering group, you can find our application documents linked below. They’re available in plain text and easy read format.
What can you expect from the Application process?
We will close submissions at 5:00pm on 3rd March 2024.
If you have any questions at any point in the application process, you can get in contact via sisofrida@gmail.com.
Responses from one of our part-time workers will come as soon as possible, on Wednesdays and Fridays.
After submissions are closed, we will be in contact shortly afterwards to arrange access for interviews.
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She can be found on Instagram @e.j.parkes
With gratitude for sharing with us
Article by Simone Aspis
I will just begin by introducing myself before setting out my position on Heidi Crowter’s court case, the legal challenge to the Abortion Act on disability discrimination and human rights grounds. Heidi Crowter is currently applying to have her case heard by the European Court of Human Rights after the Supreme Court have refused permission to appeal during May 2023.
I am firstly a disabled feminist who identifies herself as a member of the LBGTQAI+ community. And yes I am Jewish and Yes I am a paid up member of a progressive synagogue and Queer Yeshiva. Nope I am not a pro-lifer or anti-abortion either. I have spent the past 25 years fighting for disabled peoples’ rights across a whole range of issues, anti-disability discrimination, human rights, inclusive education, independent living and medical ethics at the beginning and end of life whilst working for various disabled peoples led organisations and campaigns. I have also been involved in developing the BCODP’s bioethics training pack as well. If you would like to know more about myself click https://www.simoneaspis.co.uk/.
Whilst I no longer support Heidi herself because disability equality has been used to peddle anti-abortion agenda, nevertheless the principle of promoting non-disability discrimination or more broadly non-trait discrimination throughout reproductive decision making is one that needs further debate, and it should not be simply argued away by a woman’s pro-choice rights to abortion. Heidi’s court case raises a bigger question, which is to what extent is it a pregnant woman’s right to choose the traits of her child to be born.
For me there are two very distinct questions that arises from Heidi Crowter’s court case.
The first one is, should a woman have a right to an abortion if she/they do not want children per sue for whatever reason? My answer is a definite Yes.
My second question is, do individual women have the right to decide the human traits of a future child to be born? My answer is No.
Human traits selection of a future child covers disability, race, sex and other traits viewed generally as being desirable or undesirable by our society. Male, white and non-disabled are valued traits of children society generally values. On the other hand female, colour and disabled are not valued traits of children society generally values.
I do not think it should be for pregnant women to make the decisions about the type of future child they want to give birth to. Such decisions have an impact upon the future of our society and the constitution and diversity of any subsequent populations.
States have tried to strengthen the position of women that includes access to education alongside providing financial incentives to positively encourage women to give births to female children who otherwise would had been aborted. In the global South, states have offered financial inducements to encourage the birth of more female babies as they are considered as a drain on family finances. Whilst, feminists have contested the status of girls and religious traditions (including financial customs), such challenges are insufficient to deal with the in-trenched view of women within patriarchal societies that continue to favour males. One of the unintended consequences is that individual women who decide to give birth to a male baby, think through what would be best for themselves and their individual family unit. I do not expect individual women to consider the cumulative impact of individual women making similar decisions elsewhere in choosing the sex of their child. I have the expectation that the state may well need to intervene to ensure that there is a sufficient diversity reflected within our population. So, the state does have a role in ensuring there is no skewing of male births by making sex-selection abortion unlawful with the aim of maintaining appropriate sex ratios that allows for population replacement and growth. Whatever reproductive technologies are used, there is no getting away from the need to have both male and female births to ensure that the human population exists.
So where does this leave disability because one can argue that there is no need to have disabled people, like you need women and men to guarantee the continuation of the humankind. Not only do we need a society to reflect biological sex diversity, but also one that encompasses individuals with a diversity of human traits including those with physical, sensory and intellectual abilities. After all, we need a population consisting of individuals with a whole range of human traits to have a functioning society. Society is not going to function if we do not have those with all sorts of traits that encourages caring, artistry, paying attention to detail when it comes to health and safety alongside the accountants, lawyers and all the other roles that are needed and where some of those human traits are commonly (not exclusively) associated with a disability diagnosis.
Despite disabled people having all sorts of human traits needed to create a healthy diverse society, we know there is a very high rate of disability-related abortions because women are too aware of the disablist environment that makes bringing up disabled children a big challenge when there is minimal support systems in place and where everything is deemed to be a struggle. Even if we have all the incentives and a brilliant inclusive systems in place I do not believe that alone would encourage the birth of disabled babies. Just like with the incentives for raising female birth rates, such incentives do not necessarily encourage women to raise and give birth to disabled babies. Just like with women who opt for sex-selection abortion, they are thinking what is best for themselves and their families. Like with sex selection I do not expect women to consider the cumulative impact of individual women who are making the same decision to terminate disabled babies. So, if we accept individual women’s right to select the human traits of their child is a private matter, then that removes society’s response to our population skewing towards a future without disabled children such as Downs Syndrome or Autism with associated types of human traits. If we view that abortion is simply a woman’s right and nothing else, then we move eugenics from the public to the private sphere that goes beyond public debate and state intervention to ensure we have diverse future population. A population reflecting individuals with diversity of human traits would require state intervention, hence making human trait selection abortion unlawful. If I remember rightly, one of the arguments used by the Conservative Party for not needing anti-disability discrimination laws back in the early 1990s is that we can rely on education, persuasion and good will to ensure disabled peoples inclusion is promoted, even during the time when services were better funded than they are currently. It took the introduction of anti-discrimination legislation, the Disability Discrimination Act, now the Equality Act to bring about change that viewing disabled people and disability equality as a rights based issue.
My position is supported by the UN Convention Rights Of Persons with Disabilities (UNCRPD and Convention on the Elimination of all Forms of Discrimination Against Women (CEDAW) committees that do not support human trait selection abortion, in this case sex and disability.
There are a number of ethical questions that we need to debate by disabled women.
What type of society do we want to live in?
Who should decide on the type of society we will have, which will impact upon the present and future populations.
Should any section of our population become sole decision makers about the kind of future society? I.E. Pregnant women in this case?
By Simone Aspis (Changing Perspectives)
Treasure
A wheat pillow. Chocolate. A cuddly toy. Jewellery. Homemade dinner. Artwork. Clothes. Books. Mugs.
These are some of the material gifts I have received from other disabled people over the past few years. Having pre-made dinner ready to go when you don’t feel well is brilliant, and wearing clothes and jewellery from someone you might not have been able to see in a while feels like being closer to them, somehow.
Good jokes. Bad jokes. Listening. Laughing. Sitting silently side by side. Heckling politicians side by side. Motivation. Backup. Interesting challenges. Opportunities. Protection. Genuine caring. Harsh truths. Acceptance. Understanding. The quest for knowledge, and the relay between those who know and those who need to know. Pockets of peace.
These are some of the non-material gifts I have received from other disabled people over the past few years. These are more important. Knowing that you won’t be ridiculed or punished for who you are allows you to figure it out, if you’ve not had that opportunity. Joining in the fight for legal rights to be upheld and extended is much easier when you’re not fighting alone.
Last year, I had a health issue which required use of a new device for a few weeks. I didn’t have much knowledge, and it had been attached to my body in a way that did not work. Another disabled person sent me a video of how it should work and what they thought had happened. I was sleep-deprived, in pain, feeling awful, and not able to concentrate. They explained everything step by step, patiently, in clear language with a calm and caring voice, without judgement or shame for me not knowing something so simple. It felt like a hug. If I could download how to do that into the brains of every NHS professional, it’d be wonderful. It’s easier to get used to something new when someone with lived experience can talk you through.
A friend made me cry last night. We don’t speak often, as one or the other of us might have a last-minute disaster or just not have the energy. WhatsApp and Messenger just have to do in between. We laughed about recent news, and talked about something personal. She remembered the context that I’d told her a long time before, and spoke of it in a caring tone. To hear something understood and cared about that I’ve had to defend against people who don’t believe it was wonderful.
These things are more valuable, and I treasure these memories.
Take care of each other. You will be treasured.
by Anonymous
Social meetings after lockdown
Sisters of Frida had 2 social meetings this year. We will be having 2 more next year. The meetings are generally to meet as disabled women in London, about SOF, and for us to get to know each other. Please send an email to Eventadmin@sisofrida.org to register an interest.
Photo below of the first meeting in North Greenwich
A Tribute to Lisa Ellwood
Photograph of Lisa
Lisa passed away on May 11, 2023. She was only 57. I was shocked and saddened by the news. Though we had never physically met, we had many long conversations on the phone. I was hoping to meet her one day in Edinburgh when she moved there from rural Wales. She gave me encouragement and solidarity on being a disabled woman of colour and gave me lessons on intersectionality. She told me of the discrimination she faced from some disabled people here not because she was a Native American but because she was also autistic, with mental health issues and not afraid to speak out about suicide or domestic violence. She inspired me with her passion for disability rights and taught me to embrace my different identities. She was strong – a feminist warrior – in spite of being hampered by her disability and impairments.
She was also a strong supporter of Sisters of Frida and was in the Steering Group for a short while. She helped in getting news about us at the UN CRPD and CEDAW in Geneva. She believed strongly in having a voice/platform for disabled women and helped us in every capacity. This is her profile in LinkedIn:
A strong communicator with a distinctive voice, Lisa J. Ellwood is an Autistic Lenape and Nanticoke Native American currently resident in the UK.
Ms. Ellwood is a Freelance Journalist & Writer and an active member of the Native American Journalists Association, Investigative Reporters & Editors, Society of Professional Journalists, and the National Union of Journalists (UK). She has a B.A. Degree from Temple University with a major in Journalism and Advertising and minors in Marketing & French. Her specializations include Data Journalism & Visualization, NDN Country, Disability Rights, Mental Illness and Autism.
Lisa’s Disability Rights & UK Politics blog, The Creative Crip, has been featured in Society Guardian many times. She was a freelance Correspondent for Indian Country Today Media Network from September 2015 until its hiatus from active operations September 2017 as well as a Contributing Editor and Features Writer for The Promota Africa Magazine. In September 2011 the Left Foot Forward Political Blog cited her effective use of social media and blogging in its “Nomination for most influential left-wing thinker: The disabled rights community” feature. She has also been interviewed for Grazia Magazine (Australia) & appeared on radio shows internationally including Native Trailblazers.
The next Sisters of Frida social meeting is on 29th Oct. It is at 1pm and will be in Islington. Please let us know if you re coming to eventadmin@sisofrida.org if you’re coming. Please let us know your access needs ( soft chair etc) and BSL interpreter if needed as soon as possible. Please include your dietary restrictions eg. vegan, vegetarian, gluten free.
The first Sisters of Frida meeting after the lockdown on Saturday 23rd Sept, 1pm. We’re afraid there’s limit of only 20 places but we will have 3 meetings more. It will be at Greenwich ( Jubilee line) for the first. There is a Changing Places toilet nearby. It is at an Italian restaurant, basically pizza, penne and lasagna. There are vegetarian and vegan choices but we will go elsewhere if you need gluten free (lots of other food stalls nearby). The chef cannot guarantee gluten free when pizza is being made.
We will also have BSL interpreters, please let us know if you need or have other access needs.
If you need BSL interpreter, please let us know ASAP.
We ve been asked to add that women who need to mask can do so.
And please can you take lateral flow test before you come.
The meeting is generally to meet as disabled women, about SOF, and for us to get to know each other. We re not planning any speeches – not for this first get together anyway.
